UPDATE: THIS WAS A POST FROM LAST SEPTEMBER THAT I THOUGHT WOULD BE FUN TO REVISIT. ACTUALLY, THE TRUTH IS I’M FADING UNDER A FULL CLASS LOAD AND MEDICATIONS FOR BACK PAIN. HAVE I GOTTEN YOUR SYMPATHY YET?
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Now do you feel sorry for me?
Ah, I knew that would do it!
Forgotten stereotypes return to life as you peruse these old pieces of health care ephemera.
Men acting like twits until they get their coffee. Criticizing their wives because they didn’t buy the right kind of oatmeal.
Ignoring their wives because of feminine….issues.
I find the ad pictured particularly obnoxious.
First of all, men do not act like babies.
In fact, it’s usually hard to get them to tell you how they are feeling because they don’t want to make a big deal of things.
Did I just propagate a stereotype?
I’ve noticed differences between men and women in terms of how they respond to health issues.
And it isn’t because men are “sissies” or women are “drama queens”.
It’s because men and women are different. It’s been scientifically proven that men and women process information in different ways.
Just don’t ask me to cite them. I’ll be doing enough of that in school.
And don’t expect anatomical diagrams proving just how different we are! What sort of blog do you think this is?
Here are my observations of some non-stereotypical ways that men and women differ:
- Women tend to express more agony than men when they are suffering from cholecystitis.
- Men tend to express more agony than women when they are suffering from kidney stones.
- Women really do present differently when they are experiencing angina/heart attack symptoms. More vague. Less classic.
- Men have more of a tendency to vaso-vagal after getting an injection.
- Women are more willing to obtain an evaluation if they experience pain or another uncomfortable symptom.
- Men will present with increased symptoms because they will wait longer to come in.
- Women will rarely say “ask my husband”.
- Men will more often say, “my wife has all that information”.
- Women will usually give very specific descriptions of their pain.
- Men will often just say “It hurts”.
- Women will present with a 10/10 pain but look slightly uncomfortable.
- Men will present with 10/10 pain and look ghastly.
- Women will need to urinate within 5 minutes of arrival.
- Men won’t even think about a urinal until you mention it unless they are elderly.
- Women have a difficult time assuming the patient role because they have a million things to do and can’t afford to be sick.
- Men have a difficult time assuming the patient role because they just have a harder time realizing they are sick.
- Women will ask more questions regarding medication administration for their children at discharge.
- Men are more likely to seem distrusting, or cynical, regarding the diagnosis for their child.
- Given a call bell, a woman will utilize it more often, appropriately.
- Given a call bell, a man is more likely to wait until he sees you to ask for something.
Then again, there are some things that both sexes share in common:
- Neither men nor women have an easy time waiting. The hurry-up-and-wait atmosphere of the ER is hard for both.
- Both sexes will immediately become concerned that they are missing dinner, even though they have presented with vomiting and abdominal pain x 2 days. If the patient isn’t concerned, their partner will be.
- Both sexes seem to respond to illness based on age and it is developmentally related, not stereotypical:
- Teenagers will brush off an injury as “not that bad”, especially if they are in sports or it is a sports-related injury. The first question after the shoulder is reducted or the splint is applied will be: “When can I play again?”
- Patients of both sexes in their late teens or early twenties seem to need more nurturing; the nurturing that used to be provided by their parents. They will seem a bit needy, slightly whiny (for lack of a better word). I noticed this is college kids when I worked at a university medical center.
Of course, these are just my observations over the years, but I can state that, in my experience, with very few exceptions, men are not wimps and women are not overly-dramatic.
Unless I’m sick and then we’re all wimps, as per a previous post.
Seriously, stereotypes are the one thing I try very consciously to avoid in my practice.
It’s not easy when you see patient after patient, often with the same complaints.
It’s why I will use a patient’s name all the time instead of referring to them as “Bed 18” or “the migraine in 4”.
If I use their name, my patients are not stereotypes.
They are unique.
Every one of them.
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